Not long ago I was listening in on a conversation some friends of friends were having about their son and the struggles he had been experiencing with schoolwork and exams.
The conversation went something like this:
“Unfortunately he’s just not a gifted child, so we’ll have to accept that he won’t be going to university as we would have wanted for him. We’ll somehow have to help him over the line at school and then get him into a trade that will pay his bills in future.”
What I heard left me feeling distinctly uneasy.
Since when did the term ‘gifted’ apply solely to a person’s academic prowess, I wondered?
“Your purpose in life is to use your gifts and talents to help other people. Your journey in life teaches you how to do that.”
– Tom Krause
A bright future only for the select few?
Conventional wisdom teaches us that the likelihood of us being successful in life is directly proportionate to the level of education that we achieve. If we sail through exams and achieve top grades at university we are said to be ‘gifted’ and blessed with ‘bright’ futures.
So where does that leave the vast majority of people with an ordinary or less-than-ordinary level of academic ability? Are we consigned to live with cloudy, grey, or even dark futures?
Of course not!
Wake up time
Isn’t it time that we, as society, woke up to the fact that we are all – every single one of us – inherently gifted human beings?
Each and every one of us is perfectly equipped to make a small but unique and vitally important contribution to the ongoing evolution and development of this planet and all of its life forms.
Desperate efforts to signal ‘success’
And yet, we have become so obsessed with the fact that material wealth is the only accepted measure of our success that most of us find ourselves signing up to become slaves in the modern rat race.
We find ourselves doing things that don’t come naturally, that we have little passion for or that we simply don’t enjoy.
We bust our guts and sacrifice our health and wellbeing to afford a house in a good neigbourhood or drive a swanky car, or put our kids in a private school, in a desperate effort to signal to the world that we are ‘successful’.
Embracing a flawed definition of success
Of course, the real issue, as I have written about on many occasions before, is the flawed definition of success that has been foisted upon us and that we have, like sheep, willingly embraced.
And that, in turn, has been the cause of many of us largely ignoring the special gifts or talents with which we have been endowed and becoming disconnected from the unique purposes that we are here to carry out.
The ‘ungifted’
Let’s go back to the young man that I kicked off this discussion with; the one whose parents described as ‘ungifted’.
On further enquiry I was to find out that he had an exceptional talent for art – modern cartoon art in fact.
When his parents assumed he was goofing off in his room playing silly computer games instead of studying, he was simply following his passion and producing anime designs that could easily have graced the covers of top selling computer games.
Coming alive
That special creative ability was his unique gift and using that gift in the gaming field was his passion. It made him come alive!
The same is true for all of us. We each have a gift (or gifts) that, when acted upon or applied, makes us feel joyful, alive and excited to do more.
And all it takes is a little time, effort and imaginative thinking to come up with a way in which that gift can be harnessed in such a way to produce a reasonable income, which, with passion and enthusiasm, can grow to become a seriously good income.
Undone by modesty
If you’re a very modest person, you may be thinking “Well my gift is nothing special and certainly not something I could make a living from.”
Stop right there. I’m afraid you are your own worst enemy!
Either you have completely underestimated your special talent or you simply haven’t applied your mind to how you can use it to make the world a better place and leave you happy and well cared for.
Feeling unfulfilled or frustrated?
If you are feeling like a square peg in a round hole, you’re frustrated, unfulfilled or just lacking in energy and enthusiasm for life, then it’s quite likely because you are not using your inherent gift or talent to greatest effect.
Time out needed
Take some time out – or better still, hire a life coach – to help you uncover, understand and better appreciate your unique gift and how you can apply it in a way that benefits others while rewarding you in the way you deserve.
True success – doing what you were meant to do
The world needs all of us to follow our passions, to contribute in the way we are uniquely equipped to do so that we can – collectively – develop and enhance life on earth.
That’s what would constitute true success.
Gather up your courage, follow your heart and do what you were uniquely meant to do!
Hi Bill Gwynneth Davids here I’ve taken the biggest step in my life ever since I came across New Insight life coaching reading through your website and realising this is my calling and my passion.I recently resigned and will soon register to become the best life coach I can be.
Its always insightful reading through the emails and blogs.
Keep on inspiring…
How wonderful. We look forward to you joining us 🙂 🙂
Thank you for making me accepting that I am not doing what I was meant to do and making me feel compelled to take my talent seriously and enjoy it.
Im a talented public speaker, trained counsellor and a selfless activist but always wanted to have a full time job which I always in trouble for saying the truth and not protecting the employer. I am about to register for life coaching course.
Excellent. We look forward to it 🙂
This is powerful Bill.Thank you.
Bill that hits the spot with me. I’m naturally great with people and love writing blogs. My goal, to have my own thriving lifestyle business, coaching. Marketing didn’t come naturally I am having to learn that. Does that mean we shouldn’t do that we may have to learn and may find challenging. It brings us out of the comfort zone and stretches us even if we just learn for knowledge?
Annette
Hi Annette,
Thanks for your comment. Following your passion offer requires you to step out of your comfort zone if you want to be the best you can be. Taking on new challenges is indeed the source of personal growth but the great thing is that you are doing it in pursuit of your purpose.
By the way, whereas your talent may be in working with people and writing, someone else’s talent may be in marketing. Why not team up with them so you can focus on what you are good at!
Hi Bill, that’s a great idea to team up with a marketer thank you. let me ask this if I may. Although I coach privately this is not full time and still work for a company. They are having a restructure and the project I set up and grew which is community coaching and my passion may not be part of what I do, or maybe it will as its funding dependent. I could apply for a management role whilst yes this may be more of a stretch its not exactly my passion. So here is the dilemma. If its not my passion I can still take the job short term and focus building my coaching practice or leave. We have a mortgage so I am not stupid but I feel drawn to stay short term and put my plan of action together.
Does that sound like staying in the comfort zone to you? Value your comment, thanks Bill
Annette
Whereas I strongly recommend following your passion, current economic realities sometimes dictate that you have to bide your time or accept a little short term sacrifice in order to get to where you want to be in the longer run 🙂 Being consciously aware of what you want and how you intend to get it is the key!
Thank Bill great advice.
Bill, thanks for another insightful article on an important theme – one so many people continue to grapple with – perhaps unnecessarily. Decidedly, we ALL have special, unique gifts and talents and are invited to be a contribution in the world.
Permit me to share a poem I wrote a few years ago that speaks to this theme – in the hope it inspires someone just a bit more:
I was made…
I was made for greatness,
for love, for joy, for
peace, for touching the
world with my uniqueness,
my gifts, my talents.
I was made for suffering
with those who suffer,
to feel the pain of the other,
to comfort, to mourn with,
to touch others with my
compassion and empathic support.
I was made to live,
to really live,
not with half measures,
or feeble excuses,
or with rational justifications,
but to live freely, passionately,
wholly!
To be touched by Spirit
each and every moment
Of each and every day.
I was made to touch
the Universe with my unique
being,
made to be special and
fulfill my special calling!
© Roger Arendse 20100709
Awesome – thanks Roger for this wonderful contribution!
That’s a nice article Bill. I would go one step back and say what if we don’t have a ‘gift’or at least haven’t found one. I am in this position and have spent my whole life looking for a talent I have. I recently took an ‘Align to Soul’program and my predicament was explained. It has been so frustrating watching young people find their talent from a very young age.I will keep searching.
Hi Kevin,
Don’t worry – you certainly do have a gift or talent. It’s just that you haven’t uncovered it yet or you’ve been looking in the wrong place!
As I said in the penultimate paragraph:
Take some time out – or better still, hire a life coach – to help you uncover, understand and better appreciate your unique gift and how you can apply it in a way that benefits others while rewarding you in the way you deserve.
🙂 🙂
Thank you for encouraging us to think differently on this crucial topic, Bill. I come alive when I coach and am acutely aware that it is precisely because I am using my God-given gifts, talents and strengths when I coach. I am living my purpose.
That’s wonderful Karen. Thanks for the endorsement of this post 🙂
Absolutely brilliant post Bill and one I completely connect with at a personal level. True story is that I was once asked which University I graduated from before any other questions were asked of me and when I answered “the university of life”, I was asked “oh ok, where is that based”..!! I answered with an empathetic smile and moved the conversation elsewhere. 🙂
I left school after A-levels, tested a number of vocations out before going onto creating a 25+ year long career in general management at senior level using many of my varied ‘non-academic gifts’ such as being hard working, having a curious mind and good interpersonal skills to mention a few. Gifts that I continue to use now in my new vocation as a Certified New Insights Life Coach.
We all have multiple ‘gifts’ with which we can achieve what we desire and learning to disconnect from the conditioned perceptions and expectations we create can often bring greater rewards and even new additional ‘gifts’.
Lack of confidence and self-awareness plus the inner critic doesn’t perhaps always allow for these gifts to be fully taken advantage of – cue Life Coaching.
Thanks as always for your inspiring and thought awakening insights.
And thank you Jan for a beautiful and very heartfelt post that I’m sure many will resonate with!
Lovely blog, Bill and so true. The more people I meet from all walks of life, the more I am astounded by the fact that each and every one of us is unique and special and that we all have a gift to share with others. In my coaching, I am passionate about helping my clients discover their own special uniqueness and then using this gift of theirs not only for their own good but for the greater good of all.
Fabulous – thanks Jana!
Thank you for a truly inspiring blog Bill! It is so important not to compare ourselves to others and to really live the life that is meant for each of us individually to make a unique difference in the world.
I realized at a fairly late age in my life where I am meant to make a difference and I wish we could change the school system radically. If our unique gifts and talents could be nurtured from a young age,it will make such a difference!
I couldn’t agree more Michelle – thank you!