Family Balance?

With the Easter holidays offering an opportunity for families to share time together, the \’family dynamic\’ is something that readily comes into sharp focus.

If, like many others, you believe that your own family dynamic is challenging, hugely frustrating or even downright dysfunctional, it could be that you are struggling to see the forest for the trees!

Apparent disorder within the family unit often masks the fact that there exists a uniquely balanced system when viewed from a macro perspective.

[box type=\”shadow\”]“So divinely is the world organized that every one of us, in our place and time, is in balance with everything else.”

– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749 − 1832)[/box]

Thanks to Neil

My thanks, this week, go to Neil Asher, the \’founding father\’ of New Insights, who penned this intriguing message to his database some years ago …

“When you think of the concept of balance in your life and whether that truly exists, take a close look at the fundamental social dynamic called the family and see whether function or dysfunction, order or disorder reigns.

Though, at a superficial glance, it might appear that many if not most families are dysfunctional, when viewed from a greater concentric sphere, they actually turn out to have a balanced order.

Imagine you were to task each functional member within a family to make their own list of all the like and unlike character traits, as well as the likes and dislikes of each of the other members; then you were to combine the lists.

What you would discover, if everyone did the exercise with an honest and open heart, is that you would end up with a list that portrayed the whole family as complete and in a state of perfect balance!

All the like characteristics would balance out all the unlike traits. All the likes would balance out all the dislikes.

The character traits that each of the members listed would be those that pushed each of their buttons, whether positively or negatively.

As you would come to find out, those character traits the members perceived as being either likable or dislikable are actually reflections of their own character traits and just as the whole family maintains an ordered balance, so do each of its members.

The purpose of the whole family dynamic, therefore, is to push as many of the individual members’ buttons as possible, so as to initiate a higher state of unconditional love within the family. Each member participates in the growth or evolution of the other members. By pushing each other\’s buttons each member thus helps the others move towards attaining the transcendent state of unconditional love.

Family members were divinely brought together to help them effectively fulfill their purposes. Sometimes it may not seem like it but no one member gets a better – or worse – deal than the other as each justly receives or experiences that which is essential for their own evolution.

Though human society may sometimes perceive a mess, each individual\’s heart and soul knows that divine order exists. It is only their individual lower-minded misjudgments and self-righteous or self-deprecatory illusions that keep them from experiencing the joy that is the whole family\’s unconditional love.”

Happy Easter!