Ask ten people what keeps them awake at night nowadays. My bet is that the word uncertainty will feature in at least half of the responses.
Most would agree that our world has become a lot more uncertain recently. But what do we really mean by that … and is it really something we should worry about?
Uncertainty and confusion in the external world
Our world feels more uncertain because major events seem more frightening and more unpredictable.
Scale and technology are two factors that act to reinforce this perception.
As the global population grows and becomes more connected, we become more readily and quickly aware of – and susceptible to – events that happen around the world.
Technological advances bring many benefits for humanity but they also bring more sophisticated and destructive weaponry, biological threats and toxic emissions.
The media compete to be first to report on breaking news. Likewise, they compete to provide the most detailed coverage.
Graphic, high definition images and videos are beamed straight to our portable devices, often in real time. And we all know that bad news is the preferred stock in trade of the mainstream news services.
Social media renders each and every one of us a potential reporter, analyst and broadcaster. The truth is more easily and quickly shared … but so is fake and misrepresented news.
The result of all of this is a perceived increase in bad news along with greater confusion about what to believe and what not to. Confusion sows a perception of rising unpredictability and, by association, uncertainty.
What can we do about this?
Well, we all know that technological advances will happen with ever increasing speed. Barring a major calamity, it’s also unlikely that population growth is going to slow markedly anytime soon.
A new approach
So we simply have to accept the external environment for what it is and the fact that we have very limited control over it.
Focusing inwards
We need to start focusing our attention inwards, where we have full control. We need to embrace an approach to life that brings the certainty of our inner power and creativity to bear in adapting to an increasingly changeable external world.
Integral to this new approach is making the commitment to start a new internal dialogue in which we approach an uncertain world through the lens of opportunity rather than the lens of our worst fears.
Everything I’ve said until now has assumed that uncertainty is, by definition, a negative concept. That’s because we have become conditioned to accept this norm.
But like everything in life, negative and positive are just opposite sides of the same coin.
Imagine a world in which everything was totally certain and predictable and then imagine the downsides of that. I think you will agree that uncertainty also brings many advantages.
Fear based self questions
The internal discussion that we engage in with ourselves is characterised by a series of self-questions or “what-ifs”.
Those whose lives are externally focused, or who live believing that they are at the mercy of the unpredictable and uncertain external world, will lie awake at night thinking questions like:
“What if another deadly virus strikes?”
“What if we get swept up in a terrible war?”
“What if the economy tanks?”
“What if I lose my job?”
“What if I can’t pay the bills next month?”
“What if my partner leaves me?”
The power of the subconscious is such that it keeps looking for answers long after we have stopped consciously asking the questions. The result is that we become steadily more and more anxious and unhappy.
Redefining uncertainty
The trick is to focus inwardly on what we can control; our attitudes and thought processes and, at the same time, re-define how we think about uncertainty.
When we agree to let go of that over which we have little control, we relieve ourselves of an unnecessary burden. The vacuum left by the burden is then filled with our natural creative juices. We then start to appreciate the flip side of the ‘uncertainty coin’.
Opportunity based self questions
We can then act to recast our fear based self questions or what-ifs into opportunity based questions, such as:
“What if I can find a way to meet people’s changing needs?”
“What if I make my own business out of doing what I love?”
“What if I invent a new way to do this?”
“What if I change my routine to something more exciting?”
“What if I sell my house and go travelling?”
“What if I take time out to discover my true purpose?”
Self questions focused on opportunity prime the subconscious to find ways to turn the what-ifs into reality. This amazing ‘perpetual machine’ goes to work this time, to make life more exciting, fulfilling and enjoyable.
Sweet dreams
Oh, and the quality of our sleep improves immeasurably … and everyone knows the amazing impact that can have on one’s quality of life.
Thanks Bill!
Great stuff!
Stay blessed! ???
Your comments are appreciated Christian!
Thank you, Bill. I will definitely share this with my clients. Very good. It also helps me to re-think about me writing my own blogs. If you don’t mind me using some of it in my blog?
Hi Cora-Lee
Please feel free to share freely as long as you provide suitable attribution and link back to the source.
What a great insightful read, thank you!
Thanks for the comment, Avy!
Thank you for this, Bill. You have expressed it perfectly and I will pass your words on to clients.
Wonderful – thank you Annette. You will note that the post contains a blend of the sections on taking responsibility and self questioning (and some others) in the skills training modules 🙂
An important theme and with encouraging insights , Bill. Thanks. Now more than ever, perhaps, we need to be asking and discerning what times these are that we are living in and living through, and what the messages are that we may discern for our lives. Moving from inside-out, as you suggest, I have tried, as best I could, to do this discerning for myself and have often reflected my own awakened insights and possibilities through poems. Allow me to share just two final stanzas of a poem that I wrote early on in the ‘pandemic.’ May it serve to complement your blog, and encourage us to awaken to the realities and possibilities of the times we are in:
Moved beyond streamed data,
And the plethora of patched interpretations,
I’m drawn into these visceral experiences
In real time; I feel across physical distance,
My being vibrating with your being, and yours, and yours;
Here, in an unexpected and common dance of solidarity,
I see the emboldening sign of affirmation,
That we are in this together,
Right now, in this time.
What time is this…?
This is a time of deep-felt fears,
This is a time of anguish, sadness, and grief,
This is a time of frustration, impatience, and anger,
This is a surreal time, where life and death kiss,
This is the pause and the unfolding mystery,
This is, right now, right here,
The awakening to something new,
This is the time of release and rebirth.
© Roger Arendse 20200416
We’re privileged as always to host your excellent contributions, Roger, thank you!
“To start a new internal dialogue” – indeed the key to open doors that have hitherto been closed. And for that, we first have to bring into consciousness the ‘record’ that plays in the background, the one of which we ourselves have deepened the grooves. And then recognize the distorted song and re-compose. In this, we are free. No one can tell you what to compose (although efforts are made to do so). Thank you, Bill, for your allegro and minuet!
Thanks for your beautiful composition, Arjan!
Thank you for shifting our focus, Bill. Thanking for inspiring us to think differently, to see things differently and to cultivate the courage to do things differently. Fear paralyzes. Hope energizes.
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